Jamie Kirchick calls me out by name. Apparently, I am part of “marginal attempts by far left feminist and ‘queer’ activists to upend a vital social institution.” Note the scare quotes around “queer”; I don’t like calling people self-hating anythings usually, but Kirchick’s really pushing it. Anyway, I’ve inspired the wrath of Kirchick, my life is complete.
One thing, though: Kirchick, like Jesse, didn’t get this point of mine:
Imagine a traditional wedding in which two white families are sitting on either side of the aisle. Now imagine a wedding in which one side is completely white and the other completely black. See the problem?
This was unclear, and it warrants more explanation. Here’s what I wrote in Jesse’s comment thread:
The point of the images in the section on interracial marriage was meant to emphasize the degree to which the marriage ceremony stratifies the families of interracial couples, while uniting the friends and families of same-race couples.
But for Kirchick to deny the racial issues at play with marriage is of a piece with the kind of purposeful thickness that he displays, well, everywhere.